OFFENSE IS INEVITABLE IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP – Pst. Maxwell Nnawuihe

Offense is inevitable in every relationship, no matter how perfect both partners seem to be. Such offense may be so hurting that the offended wouldn’t give room for explanations before a revenge.

Hasty revenge without explanations has left many with a life-time regret. Worst still, has led some to suicide, as a result of irreparable damages their partner had put them in.

A true story was told of what happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy’s hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy’s hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, “Daddy, I’m sorry about your truck.” Then he asked, “but when are my fingers going to grow back?” The father went home & committed suicide.

If you have offended your partner in relationship don’t wait until he/she yell, shout, or take silly/vengeful steps against you, before you explains or apologizes.

Proverbs 15:1

KJV: A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

NLT: A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger.

They further you delay explanations/apologies the faster you propel vengeance and danger in your relationship.

If you’re the offended don’t be quick in retaliation. Give room for explanations to properly understand where the offender was coming from. Whether the offense was on purpose or otherwise.

If it’s on purpose then discuss with him/her how badly you’re hurt as a result, and sincerely give the offender a clear picture of what a repeatation of such offense could bring against your relationship.

But if the offense wasn’t on purpose please forgive and move on. If you can’t move on with him/her because of how grievous the offense is, then you’ve got to leave him/her in peace, rather than vengeance and retaliatory punishments. Remember, two wrongs can never make a right.

Always remember that the future is better than today. Worst enemies today can be best friends tomorrow.