POINTING FINGERS IN RELATIONSHIP DOESN’T SOLVE PROBLEMS

 
We’re always tempted to first point fingers at our relationship partner, whenever problems arises. It’s really been in human predisposition to do so; to shift blames.

Truth is, if we were not together in relationship, there is no way we would have encountered problems together in the first instance. Our coming together made it possible. Therefore pointing fingers is diversionary in the circumstance of problem-solving in relationship.

A man asked his father-in-law, “Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?”

The father-in-law answered in a smile, “Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you.”

Everyone of us deserve love and care. We all do look forward to being loved and respected in our relationship. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he/she would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. It’s unhealthy for relationship. In fact, this is the beginning of a fierce battle in that relationship.

Let’s not forget that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

When we forgive others and find a way of solving our problems in our relationship, we have indirectly passed a strong message that makes them understand they also owe us forgiveness when we offend in future, rather than pointing fingers at us.